One thing I have noticed that guys try to do (usually Cobras) is that they attempt to play head games to normally laid back and level headed women, I think to see if they can make us crazy like the rest of the drama mamas.
Ladies- we have to fight back on this one. Just like if you had someone in your office go crazytown in a meeting- you wouldn't get all emotional and break down- we have to remain objective and recognize what is going on. Homeboy is trying to convert you to demonstrate his power as a Cobra Kai.
To best avoid this- I recommend calling a friend who is a member of the PGPB Mafia or better yet a Karate Kid. While a friend can be supportive and offer you some good advice, I don't think we really believe our own intuition that we aren't off our rocker with a convert to drama mama attempt until we discuss with a Karate Kid. A Karate Kid will help you to see- a) that you aren't crazy b) that the guy is playing head games with you and c) that you should have a beer and call it a day or move on.
My most recent experience with this was this guy I was talking to who was trying to make me think that I had "high expectations" and was "demanding" because I wanted to hear from him more often. The guy used excuses of being too busy due to his job.
I referenced the help of two Karate Kids in my life from two different social circles and they both said BS. 1) If a guy wants to talk to you, he makes the time. And 2) My expectations for more frequent communication were not me being a crazy psycho path.
This is why it's important that you as part of your development make sure that you have at least 5 Karate Kid guys in your life as friends. You are going to need them when these types of moments come up to keep you grounded and keep you from being converted to a DRAMA MAMA.
Resist the urge to react.
Instead- get objective.
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